I've tried the online dating thing periodically from time to time. To me it just seems like it goes nowhere. When you message someone 99 times out of 100 they dont respond. When you do talk to someone they really dont sound too enthusiastic to talk even if they have on their profile feel free to message me. Most of the time the peole dont even live nearby they live like 50 miles away. Do you think I might be better off enjoying the single life or trying it the old fashioned way?
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Many people want to look at sites like OKCupid or POF and they are forced to create a profile before they can browse. That profile remains on the site to create the illusion that the site has hundreds of thousands of users when it does not. Some users will not pay for a subscription so they can see messages but cannot respond. Most of the profiles will show you how recently a user was active.
Bearing that in mind, you must message a large number of users to find a few who may be active and interested. I have done online dating twice (2007-2008 and 2015) and had good results both times, but I messaged many women, and I had many first dates/meetings before I found a woman who I wanted to date on a regular basis.
It isn't supposed to be easy so if that is what you are looking for, you will be disappointed and frustrated. If you are willing to do the work, you will probably be successful. . . eventually. You may also need to try more than one site. There are some sites (like match and POF) that seem to have the same set of users so you should try a site that is significantly different from OKCupid (maybe something like eHarmony.)1