I have been single for two years now and I've just about had it. The last guy I was seeing never talked to me agai after we had sex for the first time. The guys before that ended up loosing interest in me over time - I became a hookup to them. I still find myself missing my first love even though I know I can't go back to him.
At this point I feel like I'm never going to find love again. I keep on telling myself to stop looking for love, but I can't. I always get way too excited with every new guy.
How can I get past this? How can I be content with being single? I have been traveling Europe for the past 6 months but the guys here are just as much of jerks as back home in the USA. Is dating just hopeless these days?
Most Helpful Guy
Well just reading your post, I will say without a doubt that the problem isn't with guys, it's with you. Your mindset, specifically.
Thoughts are very powerful and they have the ability to completely alter your entire perception of reality. If you have it built up in your mind that all guys are assholes, then that's exactly what you will perceive, even if the guy is genuine and nice.
Furthermore, if you're putting out the vibe mentioned above, then guys will pick up on that and perceive you as a bitch which only leads to a greater snowball effect.
Your current attitude and approach clearly isn't working for you (not surprisingly), so that's what you should focus on and start changing. The rest will fall into place like magic.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
You are not the only one who feels like this. In this generation more and more guys feel like they dont have to put in any effort to get a female. They figure that most females prefer watching movies and laying on a couch as a date. And its sad. Dating requires going out and exploring different taste that the both of you didn't know you had. I dont date, I dont feel lonely at all. Id rather wait for the guy who is worth the wait then to rush into a relationship with a guy who leads me on and only wants sex. Sometimes you have to know when to pick your battles.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE