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Yeah, it's not worth it. I would leave him. He's not opening up to you and if he hasn't by now, he isn't going to.
I dated a guy who acted in a similar way. We'd break up often, saying he didn't think he could make me happy, he wasn't sure if he was ready for a commitment, etc. I thought it was because he got out of a five year relationship and he needed time to recover and sort of do his thing. I loved him so I was willing to wait. Fast forward two years later he wants to commit and he loves me. I spend Thanksgiving and Christmas with his family, we all exchange gifts. Found out he was cheating on me.
Seeing as you're in your 30s (I'm almost there) starting over is scary and settling might seem like a reasonable option. Don't. Settling with a guy who doesn't want to openly say you're together is a problem. You won't be happy in the long run.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE