I've tried online dating, church, work, going through friends, and even saying hi to the guys in the produce department at Wholefoods. Nothing has worked to meet a decent guy. I don't drink and bars make me uncomfortable (as well as I'm not looking for a hookup). I have thought about maybe taking a class of some sort, but all the classes at the local college are more expensive than actually going to school there. I've run out of ideas on how to meet a guy. Anybody have any good ideas?
Most Helpful Guy
Try not looking. Just have fun and it will happen when you least expect it. Trying too hard can be a turnoff when you are interacting with guys.1
Most Helpful Girl
The dating scene has changed a lot, especially in the past 5-10 years. Can I suggest you read Modern Romance by comedian Aziz Ansari? I initially picked up for a good laugh, but I was surprised at how well researched it was from a sociological perspective. I learned a lot from it, because it wasn't like a typical dating book full of anecdotes. There were lots of statistics and pie charts backed by research and focus groups, and it explained how people used to meet and fall in love and contrasted that to modern times. The whole world has become so accessible to us, and that phenomena has made us lazy; it warped the way we are represented to others because our digital presence is often very different from our real world selves.
Anyhow, I found the book humorous and eye opening, and feel it helped me. There's a lot of content there that might help you work through your personal hurdles. Good luck to you!0