My friend rejected me and now i'm having a real hard time continuing to be friends with her because she is dating someone else but she keeps asking to hang out i went to lunch with her today and while it was nice i just don't see the point in being her friend it's also very hard because i fell hard for her is there any point in continuing to be friends with her she always talks about guys and its like she has no consideration for my feelings i hate being in the friendzone it really sucks because i have to sit there while she's off with other guys i need opinions thank you.
Most Helpful Girl
This is why the "Friendzone" is both a myth and also ridiculous. You can't be "put" in it, you choose whether to remain friends with someone (or force a friendship because they won't date you) or not after they reject you (assuming you actually tell them you want more than friendship). So since you didn't want friendship, but she only offers friendship, then don't be her friend if you don't want to be that close to her while you only get hurt seeing her give what you wanted to someone else. You can have other friends, you don't need to be friends with someone who rejected you, because as you know, you want more and that places unfair expectations on her, and you know she doesn't want more, but she takes advantage of your feelings and uses you for companionship and friendship, knowing full-well it hurts your feelings to see her with someone else.1
Most Helpful Guy
The only point, so to speak, is the friendship. If you can't handle it being just friends then the friendship may prove more trouble than it's worth. You perhaps need some time and space in which to get over your feelings. There is no point hanging around if you're just hoping that she will come round. Chances are that she won't. She is not considering your feelings because you're a friend and it's okay to talk about relationships with friends. It's not her fault that you feel more for her than she does in return. If you tried to get her to not mention other guys then she'll likely just pull away from you altogether. You don't want some watered down version of the friendship because then it truly will be worthless to you.1