I've always been fairly overweight. After man many diets finally found one that's worked and I am finally losing quite a bit of weight and keeping it off. The problem is that the guys that didn't want me when I was heavier are now trying to ask me out.
How I see it is the only thing that's changed is my outward appearance. I'm still the friendly outgoing girl I was before, and I want a guy that wants me, not just what I look like. Is there a good way to tell them my interest in them has changed without seeming shallow?
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You don't owe them an explanation. And you're not shallow for turning them down, especially for that reason. A simple "I'm not interested in you in that way" is appropriate. But, it would also be perfectly reasonable to tell them ""I know you're only interested now because I've lost weight and I am not interested in dating a shallow guy." THEY are the shallow ones.0