My friend introduced me to this guy that we go to school with and When we were texting, he would ask me to come over and make slick comments pertaining to me coming over. Mind you, we barely knew each other so that just turned me off because he was really showing his true intentions. Any time I see him at school he's pretty quiet but it's because most of his friends don't go to our school and he's really book-driven and is focused on school (things I've learned). I wouldn't reply to his messages because I don't appreciate being taken for a girl who just goes to guys houses instead of them having the courtesy of asking me out, wanting to hang out and not just implying that something sexual is going to happen.
Anyways, we'll see each other around at school, but we haven't texted or talked since early December when I decided to stop giving him the time of day. But now I'm intrigued by him and I really see that he's a nice guy and I assume that I showed him that I'm not "one of those girls" but I feel like because I've turned him down before, he won't try again because he doesn't want to get rejected but I would like to hang out with him. The other thing is that, I know a lot of pretty girls who are after him and who talk about him so I know he has many options (or I'm assuming). So that's also making me want to keep my distance because I don't want to be in potential competition with other girls. Mind you, all the guys at my school tell me that they "KNOW" that I have lots of guys that I talk to when in reality, I don't talk to any guys... so that makes me think that maybe he doesn't talk to girls? I don't know.
What do I do? Do I spark up conversation? Do I wait for him? (I like to take matters into my own hands lol). I was in a 4 year relationship and now that I'm out, I feel so oblivious and nieve to the ways of dating and feel so dumb.
Please give me any advice on what you think his thoughts are and what you think I should do to show him I'm interested?
Most Helpful Guy
He flirted, you declined, he accepted it and moved on to others rather than force himself on someone who doesn't want him. That would seem like the more obvious train of thought he'd be having.
Going forward, I think you need to be honest and realistic. If you truly think he's worth it then go ahead and try, but you can't close your eyes to the fact that he's been flirting around either. Make your intentions clear, ask if he's getting involved with anyone else right now before anything else, and that you're not interested in just sex. This is not the time to worry about coming off too strong, since being vague might make it all a mess.0
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Most Helpful Girl
Honestly, okay, he might have turned out as nice guy to YOUR EYES but according to my experience, guys pretty much remain like that, he tried, you said no, and he went on to the next one, and i think he will continue doing so, and congrats, you just saved your cute bum from a heartbreak.
You can just be friends with him, initiate a conversation show him some interesting video be natural, and see WHAT IS TRULY INSIDE HIM without listening to others. DON'T just DON'T listen to others.
You seem like a smart girl and don't loose yourself.
Good luck and take care <30