Venting a little bit here... I've never been married, no kids, have graduate degrees, decent job, good figure (size 0, cup D, long legs), small symmetrical okay looking face, thick shiny long hair, no white hair, no wrinkles... but I am getting older each year heading to mid thirties... I tried to go on dates, I don't ever get asked out unless I put myself on dating websites, even then, those dates are horrible, I couldn't get pass a 3rd date, I dread having to meet these people... when I actually run into someone I'd be interested in, they don't want to date me, just kept stringing me along like I am some kind of game, a catch to release, leave me crying. Sometimes, out of boredom, random guy friends will want to hang out a lot, and then out of the blue, they'd ask to turn it into dating relationship... it is horrible, because I am not attracted to my friends in that way, and I know for absolute certainty that they were just bored, they aren't really attracted to me, they just want to pass time because they are lonely. Next, they'd throw my friendship out like trash because I am not useful for dates, and one even went as far as unfriend me on facebook after a period of silence. I have never been cruel to anyone's feelings, but all the guys I've met online are lousy. I am trying to focus on my job, hit the gym, do my hobbies... but no guy ever approach me outside of dating websites. I don't know what to do... it feels like I am going to be old and alone for the rest of my life. I don't want to go to church and I don't want to be a nun... It depresses me, I feel like I am dying everyday waiting for the person I am supposed to be with... maybe he has already met someone else, and I am here, getting old and still waiting, for no one.
Most Helpful Guy
It's not uncommon for very successful women to have a sort of manliness to them instead of a more Feminine energy. I don't know if that's an issue for you but it could be seeing as you've been fairly successful.
It's also fairly common for attractive good women your age to be in your situation, there are just a lot of men who have dropped out of dating entirely. In my own circle of friends, late 20's to mid 40's I'm 36, I know several good men with jobs and such who have just stopped trying.
It's also possible you're pricing your self out of the market.. sorta.. There was an article I was reading a while back where they had done the math on this. For example if you wanted a man, in your age range, single, and 6" tall, looking for a relationship, I think that reduces your dating pool in a city of a few million to something like a few hundred men. It only get's worse when you add things like college education, a minimum income level and being straight it quickly approaches the single digits and you haven't even considered things like compatible life style, life goals, beliefs or weather they find you attractive etc..
The article said the best way to increase those options is to consider men who have non white collar jobs, but other things as well and to focus a little more on the traits that matter in a partner and focus a little less on the more superficial ones.
I dunno if that helps at all. I can really relate to this:
"It depresses me, I feel like I am dying everyday waiting for the person I am supposed to be with... maybe he has already met someone else, and I am here, getting old and still waiting, for no one."
So know your not the only one out there struggling, the dating scene is a dumper fire as far as I'm concerned, it's so toxic!1
Most Helpful Girl
If you're supposed to be with someone then you will be with them and I'm 25 married twice a baby as a teen a Size 8 with oddly big ass eyes I don't think people care about any of that enjoy being you everything else happens when it happens if all else fails dating apps are in1