In lebanon usually men are seen as the providor and head of the family. You find women here to be a bit spoiled in some ways I have to admit.
Now I noticed for a while now that I need a sort off authoritarian partner and I need him to be quite doninant. Like I prefer him to lead on and so...
Buuuut I know that s not great haha and I am trying to wire myself to not think that way anymore. It won t do me any good to be dependant in some way. So I keep teaching myself the cons and all haha.
So sort off the question here is the critic.
Who can relate? Who a for? Who is against? And why?
Thanks in advance haha✌
Most Helpful Guy
You are fighting against biology though. It is perfectly normal for women to desire a strong man. The problem here is not that it exists per se, but that your desire goes overboard (might be your difficult relation to your father, your culture, etc.).
There is a difference between someone leading and someone dominating, a difference between letting someone lead and subjugating yourself.
This picture - while in a different context - sums it up perfectly:
So you should first figure out what YOU really want. Equality doesn't work, but equal giving does. Both partners can and should give and put equally much into a relationship and yet give different things. The notion of "we are complete equals" is a farce and just doesn't work - especially sexually it makes the bedroom a "sleep only"-area.
The next question after figuring out what you really want is WHY you want that. As I said - wanting a naturally strong, leading man is perfectly normal for a woman to want, but wanting an authoritarian partner not so much. So where does the discrepancy come from? The father example was one I gave already, insecurities could be another reason. Also you trying so hard to not want that could make you want it even more.1
Most Helpful Girl
You can want whatever you want girl, I always advise women keep a level of personal independence for her own sake and sanity but if that's the guy you want, get er'.2