So I recently got out of a 9 month relationship with a much younger girl. I tried to make it GF/BF but she really was more of a fuck buddy. It was lots of fun and she was the first to say "I love you" but towards the end of the relationship I started being more open about my issues/insecurities. I never did anything over the top, but it definitely turned her off. She ended up completely ghosting me with no warning at all.
Anyway I make good money, am very athletic, adventurous and told by many people that I'm a attractive man. However I've known for years that a man's attitude/personality is numbero uno for scoring women. But I've had some issues happen recently. Besides the breakup my parents are also talking about getting in a divorce after 36 years of marriage (which is impacting the entire family). My work has also been very stressful lately.
Two weeks ago I ended up going on 4 dates with a girl closer to my age. She was very interested at first, texted me everyday and didn't flake out on anything. However she also never offered pay for anything (1st/2nd are fine... but 3rd/4th?). We made out a bit, but she blocked me from doing anything waist down. The last date was frankly terrible. Despite my best efforts, planning, trying to joke around and wear a smile she absolutely showed no affection at all. I was also getting pissed that she was mooching off me. I think she only wanted some free meal tickets and some male attention, nothing else. I stopped contacting her completely.
Anyway these are all just setbacks, I know. However I want to have the right attitude towards women. Any strategies to stay positive?
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From what you said I don't find anything wrong with you! And I really don't get the girls who wait for those "free dinners", first date okay, but I personally feel super uncomfortable when someone is paying for me all the time, she could have cooked you at least dinner or something. I also would have done more after 4 dates, especially if I'm attracted to the man. And I also know how the men change when they are under a lot of pressure so I prefer to give him a little bit of personal space. You seem like a nice guy and it shouldn't be a problem for you to find a girl. The only advice I can possibly give you is - no matter how busy you are or how many problems you have , don't let them stop you from finding or keeping a girl.0
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