Most Helpful Guy
You know I used to really worry about this, especially when I was younger. Now quite frankly I don't care anymore. I say this because I have realized that I am what I am (some might say I'm a nice guy, some may not). I guess what it really comes down to is the eye of the beholder (similar to beauty). In the end if somebody can accept me for the way I am (flaws and all), then I will accept them for the way they are. There are only a very few things I ask in return. 1. Respect me, as it happens this isn't something that is really all that hard, just extend to me the respect you expect to get in return. 2. Stay true to me, I say this in the sense that if you are going to desire monogamy from me, I can certainly provide this, again so long as you stay true to me as well. 3. Lastly be kind to my heart. I completely understand that life can be hard, it's that much harder when the one who is supposed to have your "back" is constantly kicking you when you are down. In my mind a loving relationship means that you are both aware of your partners needs and help support them as they walk beside you on this journey we call life.
If these things can be met and maintained, then everything else really doesn't matter all that much, which includes the great debate about why both men and women make bad choices in their partners, because that is really what I see going on here. It has far less to do with "bad boys" vs "good guys" or "wild/crazy" girls as opposed to "good girls" in the end it comes to the simple fact that you can't really complain about your poor choices relationship wise when you yourself don't really know what it is you want. It might serve you well to take a step (or a few) back to look inside yourself to see what it is you really want in your life and how to go about getting it. If having a partner in your life is important, it should also require some thinking about who you are and what you want from such a relationship, and then making some careful and thoughtful choices to meet those goals.7
Most Helpful Girl
I never did. But then again, I am not..."nice"0