Most Helpful Guy
Women want ALPHA MALES. Jerks often appear to be alpha males but are false alphas who are able to mimic the behaviour of alpha males. Similar traits can be seen in men who talk, yell the loudest or men who are taller than average; many women perceive height to be equivalent to leadership qualities. All these things are subconsciously telling a woman that he is an ALPHA male who she must mate with.
Despite people believing they have evolve past animals, many of the traits you are drawn to for a mate dates back to prehistoric man times.8THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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Most Helpful Girl
I'll tell you of one example of how i (unwittingly) picked a jerk over a nice guy.
One night my best friend and I were bar hopping downtown. I ended up catching the eye of one guy, we'll call Brandon. Brandon was with his friend Dante. Initially I was more attracted to Dante, but Brandon wasn't ugly. He was also friendlier and paid more attention to me. Dante acted somewhat gruff and slightly standoffish like he was in a bad mood, but once you made an effort to talk to him, he opened up and was nice. Brandon was more openly hitting on me and would touch me a lot (not in a disrespectful way, but would grab my hand and hold me in a way you knew he was interested). Brandon was more flirty and I could tell he was into me. Dante didn't flirt much.
I ended up briefly hanging out with Brandon but found out that he was rude, disrespectful, a bum, and raised red flags of possible abuse. Dante ended up being more open and I could tell that he liked me, but by that time it was too late and I had already been with his friend. Fast forward a year later and Dante is happily married and I hear he treats his wife like a queen. I sometimes wonder if that could have been me if I'd overlooked Brandon for him.
Dante could have stolen my attention away if he was more forward and open about his interest for me. I was left wondering and unsure, so I went with the guy who I thought liked me.
So sometimes nice guys end up losing because they dont make the move. Welll, I won't say LOSING because Dante is now happily married so he won in his own way. :)6THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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