I keep finding myself in the fbuddy zone which really really frustrates me. I'd only had one boyfriend in the past, we broke up about a year ago and since then I've slept with 6 different men who all don't want anything more than sex. I've never worn anything provocative or initiated flirting with any of the 6, and I didn't have a rep for sleeping around that any of them knew either.
Package-wise: I earn in the 70k+ range, am 24, Ivy graduate and have been told that I'm attractive enough (pageants, and men do stare). I do feel like I have a personality issue; i can be aloof (actl just shy) initially and I can't flirt or banter consistently well. Yet other people have said that I just need to be more confident in who I am and there have been other guys (whom I didn't want to date) have liked me for that mostly. And I have pretty bad self esteem issues.
None of the 6 are out of my league objectively (though all were good looking and successful professionals or very rich), in fact in some cases I've been told that I can do better. My friends (who hook the same type as boyfriends) say that it's because I don't know how to get guys to treat me better. I have no social media and don't update my Facebook, so there's nothing else that can influence their opinion.
What is going on? And what can I do?
Ie. Met a guy through a friend one night we were going out. He did show a lot of interest but I kept conversation on a friendly level. Throughout the night he kept getting me to drink and I was extremely stressed and got wasted. So - yeah, suddenly he was making out with me and we were at his place etc. I don't know WHY but from the start he was trying to get into my pants. And I was in WORK CLOTHES. And I was okay with writing it off as a drunken ONS and moving on but he kept being really affectionate and insisting that he liked me, and we did things other than sex. 3 months later, he's even more affectionate but the "I'm not looking for a r/s" line pops out
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God that's a lot to read. Phew! Anyway. Your only real main issue in the dating scene is your not looking for guys who want a relationship. You see your trend. You date people then get to know them. RED FLAG. This world wants you to be this way and that. It's takes me 2 hours to know a person. Why cause I do my homework on the person I like. It's perfectly okay.
Your personality far as concerned. Being shy is okay, being aloof helps your morals anyway so that's cool, but not knowing how to flirt and stuff is a huge turn off. Guys will see you as friend zoning them.0