I reconnected w/a guy from a dating site after my break up. We went on a date, but after a few hours I was pushing myself to be interested. I never lead people on and told him truthfully I wasn't feeling it. I hate myself for it, but we had messaged for months and he didn't want a 1st date. I almost feel like he had a pseudo attachment to me. He isn't a bad guy. Did I do wrong? In a 1st date I either feel it or I don't, its always been this way.
Most Helpful Guy
I think you should feel great to be feeling horrible. It shows you're conscious and aware of others feelings, and able to take responsibility. Learn from it, see if there's anything you can do to make him feel better, and accept that attraction isn't a choice. It's also not relevant for most relationships, but that's another story...1
Most Helpful Girl
It's better be upfront right away, because although rejection is painful , false hope hurts more. It's best to let someone know where they stand with you , because it just brings about too many complications in the long- term. At least it'll give him the opportunity to find a girl who genuinely wants to be with him
I'd never stay with a guy out of guilt. You can't jeopardize your own happiness for someone else's0