Her mom said that she tends to push people away when she's stressed/depressed/anxious, and with school, work, volunteering, church and tutoring I can't blame her. She said to give her space when she does, but to not flat out ignore her. That it was a "fine balance and not for the faint of heart". She was diagnosed with depression, anxiety and ADHD. She told me on Friday when we went out that being romantic stressed her out. That she thought we were going too fast and needed some space.
For reference, we spent pretty much every day together during the winter break (she always sought me out and wanted to be with me), so it understandably was an added shock to our flow.
She told me on Friday (as I was pulling into her street to drop her off): "I liked spending time with you (during the date Friday) in a stress-free relaxing way without any romantic pressure involved. Can we do this more often? I don't want to lead you on into thinking that we're going to last forever either. I don't know does this mean that we're still in a relationship? Do you still want to be? I care about you". I told her I loved her and would always support her and wanted her to be able to trust in me with anything that was bothering her, to help her if she wanted. She's tough, so of course she said she didn't need or want help. Then she got out of the car and said, "take care, drive safe. I'll talk to you when I talk to you!"
Should I maintain no contact with her and wait for her to reach out, or should I wish her a Happy V-Day? She didn't want me to be romantic, but I don't want her to feel ignored either. I'm really confused and hurting for her😔