ok so there is this guy that I work with at my job that likes me a lot to the point where he told me he's falling in love , I'm 22 and he's 35 . He is very sweet and I really enjoy talking to him and everything but I'm not attracted to him at all. I feel bad because every girl at my job has a crush on him and he's turning them down for me, don't get me wrong I started to develop some type of feelings for him at first but for some reason I can't get myself to kiss him or even think of having sex with him. Maybe because he's so emotional and always talking about his feelings 80% of the time.
I just got out of a 6 year relationship prior to this and I have a daughter from that relationship as well. I'm not sure if I just like the attention that this guy is giving me because all he talks about is how awesome I am and how beautiful I am inside in out. It's nice don't get me wrong but he literally wears his heart on his sleeve. If I don't give him attention he gets upset and he tries to convince me to give the relationship a shot and I keep telling him to give me time we only knew each other for 6months and he's already falling in love!
I really want him around as a friend because we can literally talk about anything, but every time I start to like him he just turns me off. We work at a school and literally everyone there thinks we are dating which sucks because if I hurt his feeling I'll be looked at as a bad person or something.
Sorry if I wrote a lot , I hope I'm not shallow I feel as though I have to be attracted to a guy in order for the relationship to work. I'm just so confused , some people tell me to go for it and see how it goes then some say forget it. I need help! I just don't want to lose him as a friend.
Most Helpful Guy
"but every time I start to like him he just turns me off"
Tell him you're slow to warm up and he's going way to fast for you, that he needs to stop with what ever he's doing that turns you off and instead he needs to spend some time being more manly and giving you a chance to develop feelings.
Unless you're sure it's not possible to have feelings for him, it kinda sounds like it could be possible if he was less gushy and more patient and/or seductive?0
Most Helpful Girl
What is the problem?0