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no i wouldn't go back with my ex so fast. you both need time to get over the past and date other people
Let's say that you dumped her about 6-8 months ago and that you did it because your emotional needs were not met. You wanted her to be more affectionate but she was kinda emotionless, she could not show you her love the way you needed her to. In the meanwhile you go on with your life, you have sex with random girls and you meet one that you are anxious to date. You show her that you really like her and you start talking about committing if things keep going the way they are right now. Out of the blue your ex textes you what you have always wanted to hear from her, so you get really confused and start pulling away from the other girl you have dated for about two months and with who things were going great. Does it mean you never really liked your date in the first place or just that your date did not have enough time with you to develop the bond that could have prevented you from giving your ex a chance? lack of interest or lack of time?
just means you still got left over feeling for your ex which is normally but i would still give the new person a chance. but since its been 6-8 month of nc am questing? i would at least met with the ex too see how i feel. but make sure you ask all the right question was she dating someone else that treated then badly and now they want me back?
Is it possible to pull back from your new date just because you are confused or saying it screwed with your head is just a way to keep a door open in case it did not work out with your ex?
if your pulling back from the new date to go out with your ex then tell him that do not lie. tell him you got some left over business with your ex and can't fully date him till you settle things with your ex. if you don't do this your only gonna fuck things up with the new guy. if he is understand he will allow you to go try things with your ex but don't expected him to wait for u.
It's actually the other way round. He showed up by surprise to see me and we laughed so much and he even texted me when he got home. He started pulling away all of a sudden and things were going great, as said he talked about commitment if things kept going that way. He turned down my invitation to meet, I asked him if he has a problem with us and he said it was not me the problem, but he had some issues to take care of first and then we would have met again. I thought it was about his family at first, but I left him space. I then texted to give some info he had asked about, he replied saying once again we were going to meet when he had some more time even if i had not asked. I then clearly said I have feelings for him and if he needs time I give i to him, however I did not know what the problem was. I also asked whether he wanted to tell me he changed his mind or whether he wanted to tell me everything was fine. He replied saying he understands and is really sorry.
He also added he really appreciated me these two months. I asked what it is about and he replied I have done nothing to turn him off, his ex is back saying what he wanted to hear and they are not a couple but it screwed with his head. He started pulling away 2 and 1/2 week ago, but told me it is his ex that screwed with his head three days ago. I just replied I thank him for being honest. No contact since that day and I do not plan to text him any time soon. I am trying to move on, I think there is no way he will come back. I do not think he wanted to lead me on, I think he sincerely liked me because his actions showed it until she showed up.
i argee but as long as she there... u gotta move on
Do you think he just realised he has left over business with her the moment she texted him? Do you think I could have spotted red flags that I did not see? He would not talk much about her unless I asked and I asked if the relationship was over before he dumped her and he said yes. Do you think that it is possible that he sincerely felt something for me and that if we had had more time together he might have decided not to give her a chance again? Did he put us on hold or did he just tell me he does not want to see me ever again? That does not change I need to move on I know. I just would like to see his intentions prior to her appereance and get if he handled it fairly with me.
i have a ex i was almost married too and am now dating someone new. so i can kind of somewhat understand how he feels. i do belive he realized he still loves her& has left over business with her. i love my new girlfriend but i fear the same things sometimes but i won't known till it happens. i think him not talking about her unless asked is a red flag right their. from month 1 i always talked to my girlfriend about my ex. Honestly i can't tell you weather or not he sincerely care about you since it was only a 2 month relationship. this is just 1 of those things you won't known unless you ask him yourself. all i can say is if he comes back talk too him but for now find someone better.
I wouldn't go back to an ex.
The ex is the ex for a reason
but does it mean you never really liked the person you had started dating two months prior or does it just mean that you might have really liked her/him but you had not enough time together to make memories and realise you are better off in your new 'relationship' because the person you have deeply loved comes back saying what you wanted to hear?
Yeah the second one
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