Guys, if you met a girl that is 100% your type, but you found out she is extremely depressed and mentally ill, would you still date her?


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  • It very much depends.
    That's not a useful answer, so I'll elaborate.

    I have been in this type of situation before, and I ended up not dating her. Not because I wasn't attracted (I very much was) but because in this particular case she needed a true friend more than a boyfriend. I don't mean that a boyfriend is not your friend, but there's stress to a romantic relationship, and it wouldn't have been good long term. I liked her enough to put her long term wellbeing above my feelings and simply be the best friend I could. She credits my friendship with helping her, so as far as I'm concerned that was the correct decision in my case.

    However (and this is a big however) The fact someone has a mental illness is not a reason not to date them unless dating them would cause more harm than good. Illness, physical or mental, is not something to drop a partner for (consider marriage vows: "In sickness and in health" - no mention of whether that sickness is physical or mental). So evaluate the situation and do what is best for the person you have feelings for.

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  • Of course.
    I will put all my energy, time and effort to build her up and help her to get out of that mentality. When i love someone i will do anything for them.

    My girlfriend of six years been near of such situation when we met.
    Depression, self-harming - Certain mental conditions etc. . .
    She's nothing near that now.

    And when something goes out of my hands. I will take help from somewhere else but i won't leave her because of it.

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  • Of course i would, with no doubt or hesitation.
    I will invest all my life in to her mental health, so she will recover.
    By the way, depression can easily be cured once you find the 100% "your type", so that is not a problem at all.
    I will do my best for her.

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  • Yes... I have and she was one of the best women I've ever dated. We are still amazing friends and Ill always help her and be there for her when she needs. And she feels the same way for me

    You just need to find the right guy who genuinely cares about a person's well being

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  • Yes - BUT I would go forward with extreme caution. I would realize that she may have more than I can handle and that I should let her know as soon as possible that I can't handle it and it wouldn't work out so that I don't waste either of our time. Some people can handle these kinds of people, and others can't. I can't say for sure that I can, but I'm willing to give it a try.

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  • In a heartbeat.
    Unlike women, we don't mind the "extra baggage".

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  • She can't be 100% my type if she's depressed and mentally ill.

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  • as long as we are complementary in the relationship and not antagonistic, I'd say it's all right. I'm crippingly depressed as well, so as long as that brings us closer and not further apart, I'm good

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  • Of course! I'm in the same boat pretty much so I understand her problems. I'd be there for her and make sure she knows how important she is.

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  • If her ill doesn't make her swear at me , i would xD

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  • I don't know. If its always a huge problem and we can't have fun together, then I don't think so.

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  • i would still date n find out some more but be cautious

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  • Yes because you could be the person to change her life around

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  • Yes! Maybe I am her cure :)

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  • Nope. Sorry. Been there, done that, never again.

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  • She wouldn't be my type if she's depressed.

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  • Absolutely not.

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  • Extremely mentally ill? Yeah, don't do that.

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  • Yes cause maybe I could help her out

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  • Yes! But I'd try to get her therapy first!

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  • Nah too much stress

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