Is it ok to go out for coffee with other guys if you have a bf?

Let's say someone asks you out to coffee, and you're not single. Is it ok to have coffee with them?

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  • Sure! My two closest friends are women and my wife had no problem with it. She trusted me, so if a lady wants more and I do it, that's all on me. The lady has nothing to do with my decision, so I deserve all the blame. Both my wife and I trusted each other and had no issues when the other did things with the opposite sex. If you don't trust your partner, you don't have the kind of relationship you should want. (for those of you who feel the need to tell me I'm crazy, don't bother. I really don't care what you think!)

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I'd say consider how jealous your boyfriend can be (from past experience) and how sensitive he is. Also, make sure he's okay with it before u go out for coffee. Think to yourself. Would you be happy if your boyfriend went out to coffee with another girl and got to know her? It'd be a bit uncomfortable, wouldn't it? I wouldn't advise it for the sake of your relationship, but make sure you ask your boyfriend about his feelings on it. MHO? xD

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What Guys Said 26

  • Here are my thoughts from a relationship coaching lens.
    First and foremost, there is nothing wrong with going out for coffee with any member of the opposite sex just because you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend.
    Second to this, there will be people who disagree with this. There will be people that would not be okay with this. But, that doesn't make it wrong. That means they are either jealous or territorial.
    So, the act is not wrong but perhaps a couples relationship is not strong enough to withstand it.

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  • Going for coffee is AKA lets get to know each other better... So NO it's not okay!

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  • If you think the guy wants to date you and you don't feel comfortable with it, I'd say don't do it. Other than that I don't see a problem. You might mention it to your boyfriend so it is "not behind his back". I wouldn't mind if a woman I was dating had coffee with guy friends. Not that I'm dating anyone at the moment. LOL...

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  • Yes of course it's ok. But people get afraid because you never know who you'll meet that will make you feel giddy inside

    --> The key here is to understand you can be attracted to more than one person even with a boyfriend. So don't automatically get confused and act on it if you feel attraction. Simply move on and forget.

    --> Don't step on your bf's toes and make him the priority

    If you can safely follow these rules, meet whoever you want

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  • Yes and no.

    Yes: It's okay if you are with a friend who is single who just needs a friend to talk to.

    No: If that single person believes that coffee = sex.

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  • Depends on the situation. If he's a friend that's been around for years and your boyfriend is fine with it than sure.

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  • Yeah just dont do the hot coffee mod, if ye know what I mean *wink*.

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  • you know your intentions and stick to your guns, sure. go for it.

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  • If you asked or at least informed your partner sure.

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  • Yes, of course, as long as their intent isn't to date you.

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  • If the other guy is related to your boyfriend Or is gay!! lol

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  • No, considering what "going out for coffee" actually means.

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  • If you don't mind him going out for coffee with females?

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  • Would it be okay to you if your boyfriend did that?

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  • Sure.

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  • Its not!

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  • No it's not. What are you thinking?

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  • I'd break up with you.

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  • it's only coffee

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What Girls Said 11

  • You have to use your intution here. If you can tell the person who invited you has romantic intentions, then definitly not.
    Yet, these kind of questions should be discused between partner. Then, if your partner says it's not okay and fundaments why it isn't, and you agree, then it's indeed wrong.

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  • Is this even a real question? Are you a troll? Because the answer is pretty obvious. If you have to ask something like this, then you already know the answer.

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  • if you feel as if you have to hide it from your partner then it's not right, and if you'd be upset at your boyfriend going out for a coffee with a girl then it's not right either

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  • If you're having coffee as friends, it's fine. If there's any intention of something romantic or sexual, then it's not okay.

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  • asks you out having the intention in pursuing smthng with you
    and asking you for coffee to sit and study
    those are 2 different situations
    the latter is no problem

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  • I mean maybe let ur boyfriend know first. Would you want him meeting random girls without mentioning it to you?

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  • sure, as long as you tell them when they invite you, "you do know I'm happily involved with my boyfriend, right"

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  • If it's someone who's just a friend, sure. If it's some random guy you just met, it's a date, so no.

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  • I think its fine as long as your boyfriend knows who you're going with & where you're going to.

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  • Depends on who they are. But only as long as you make it clear that its just as friends.

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  • Technically, that's still cheating, so no.

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