I understand I cannot label "all" women the same, however, there is a saying in life which DTA (Don't Trust Anybody) it's a double-edged sword and I'm sure girls/women can agree with that philosophy when it comes to guys/men as well. For me, it's not just about sex with girls, because I have had the opportunity to have sex with pretty girls in the past but hand to God I refused because I don't think it's right to have sex with someone if your intention is not to marry them.
I worked my ass off in school, I cook, extremely meticulous, stay in shape, I love to joke around but I know when to be serious and most importantly I am using God as my driving force to be a better person. If I see people going out on Valentine's Day or getting married or having this romantic night out, it doesn't bother me. I am not going to sit there and be angry because the only person who can make me happy is myself.
I'm mentally exhausted at my age to go out and meet girls because I just consider it a headache now. You may be wondering, well maybe you rush things with these girls or your not interesting... I have 3 older sisters and majority of my family are women so I understand how women act more so than the average guy. I'm just caught in this dilemma is it ok for someone to die alone, who is still a virgin... I guess for over a decade I've dealt with girls choosing the bad boy over the good genuine guy, or the girls who said "ew you're not 6ft4+" or other dumb stuff... I just find that behavior superficial, why should I leave my happiness in the hands of a girl? I don't care what anyone says, nice guys don't finish last because God is the ultimate judge at the end of the day for our good deeds on earth, right?
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i disagree about the whole no-sex-until-marriage thing... mostly because i had no intention of ever being married, and forever is a long time to be abstinent. but, even though my boyfriend of 2 years has finally sold me on the idea of marriage (before that, i was definitely a DTA, as you called it) we weren't each other's 'firsts' and i'm okay with that.
a few questions for you:
where are you meeting these women?
-the venue plays a huge part in the type of woman you'll attract. someone you meet in a club has a very different personality from someone you meet at church or the gym.
how old are they?
women in their late teens/early 20s are more interested in just having fun and don't want anything serious (hence why they choose the 'bad' boys). the closer to your age she is, the higher your odds of success.
have you tried online dating?
i was in a similar position a few years ago: i was a young professional working 60+ hours a week; i barely had time/energy to eat and sleep, so going out to "meet people" was off the table. but i met someone about a week after creating the profile, and we talked for a month before meeting in person. we are in our third year together and are still happy as ever.
(i used okcupid; maybe you could try christianmingle, since you're religious.)
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