I don't want to come across as needy or crazy, but I've been seeing this guy for 4 months and his lack of effort over the last few weeks is starting to upset me. I'm at that stage where either he ups his game, or I walk away.
If he isn't that into me anymore, that's okay - I just want honesty. But I don't want to be pushy.
However, it annoys me, that I seem to do all the leg work. Reaching out, carrying conversations, the fact, I'm currently sick and he didn't bother to ask how I am. He says he'll call, but doesn't - during one call, he said he'd call me back, because he had to do something, then went to bed after - without letting me know. Its little things! But it feels disrespectful and uncaring.
Not just that, but I've started feeling like a dirty little secret. If his friends are near, he won't speak on the phone and his replies become short as in "yea" or "no". It's definitely not because I'm unattractive!!
I don't want to assume he's just being an ass, I'd like to have a conversation about it and actually see if there's a deeper reason or if he's just not feeling it.
I am not his girlfriend. So part of me feel I can't really make demands, but on the other hand, if he wants me in his life, he needs to put some effort into me.
How do I do this, without being pushy?