I'm 23 f and I've never had a boyfriend. I would LIKE a long term relationship as I don't want to lose my v-card to just anyone; I'd prefer it to be someone I care about. I also wouldn't mind dating that person and eventually marrying them if it leads to that (but of course, that's probably my lonely self talking).
The thing is that I don't really like older men. Every time I talk to them, they act really condescending and I barely have much in common with them. I pretty much still act really goofy and child-like (as in I spend my days laughing at stupid internet memes and watch stupid youtube videos). I also had really controlling parents growing up, and the idea of having some older man "take care of me" the rest of my life or acts really condescending towards me as my dad has all my life really makes me want to throw up a bit.
The thing is, I constantly read about men leaving their wives for younger women... men being totally obsessed with younger women, and apparently women are "supposed" to prefer older men for their stability and stuff. There's also the fact that a man 30+ would be more willing to date and marry me eventually whereas a guy around my age (23-27) may get bored after a while. You might say well what's the big deal, just find someone serious to date in a few years when the boyfriend your age dumps you? But by then, I'll be in my late 20s and it'll be super difficult to find a good guy around your age to date than my current age. At that point, I'll have to be looking for 40 year olds, and that's when men really start seeming "old" to me. It seems like I have a greater chance of scoring a "youngish" 30-something guy right now than later. Should I just force down my aversion to the whole thing and aim for the older age group?
Most Helpful Guy
Its not a necessity. Age is just a number. what you need is patience... you can't control a vehicle (love) you dont have yet.
I love the fact that you went im 23 f...
signs of the online dater... you need to go out more and meet some people in your range lol...2
Most Helpful Girl
don't do anything unless you feel it's right girl! just wanting a relationship for the sake of it is never a good idea, it'll only lead to more issues down the line.3