After moving to the US&breaking up with my ex due to distance, gave break to dating for 3 years cuz I was heartbroken&couldnt get over my ex. Wanted to focus on myself. Soon in 1 year I will graduate, noticed Im over my ex, do not like to be alone anymore, as I am 27, I like to get to know someone, settle down. So started using online dating.
I&this guy met online, hanging out since 3 months. We have noticed we have a lot in common, what we want from future, where we would like to live, hobbies, interests etc. We both are open to discover new stuff, sex is above average. He liked to cuddle, spend time with me, even stay over at my place for 4-5 nights.
After awhile, he started pulling away. It can be either he's afraid of falling for me, or he actually dont like me. I gave him some space to think rather than texting, initiating, planning dates, or being clingy-needy. He initiated contact after a week. So I had talk with him, told him that rather than dating others, I like to get to know him, focus on him, so I like us to be exclusive. He didn't really answer, neither said no nor yes. he asked me if distance is a problem since he will be moving away (2 hrs by car) to another city within 5 months. I said I do not like to think of what might happen in the future but rather than focus on present because I think we are compatible. He left to think but planned a date after 4 days of thinking. We had fun time, he still didn't tell me if he wants to be exclusive or not. didn't talk to me since 5 days. I thought he's busy with moving out packing etc to another flat so I offered my help, but he said thanks and didn't initiate for another date.
Recently i noticed he still becomes regularly online on match. com, OKC, Bumble, still looking for others, his profile says he is looking to settle down.
I wonder why a person dont wanna spend more time on getting to know someone but still look for others. What is wrong or missing with me and him? Me being foreigner maybe with accent?
He dont use social media except FB,&dont want to be friends on FB and explained as "he rarely uses FB, or follow things on FB" but on his OKC profile, he answered the FB usage question as "I frequently use FB". I became creepy after three months and found and stalked his online profile after 3 months today, he put his profile pic 2 years ago. Does that mean anything?
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Your write up is not the same as your question.
For your question, "best match he found" doesn't mean there isn't someone better out there or that it is going to work out with the girl he found. There is ALWAYS someone better. And most of the time, it doesn't work out.
In your write up, you misunderstand what "looking to settle down" means. It could mean he is writing what many women want to hear. It does not mean that you are the one he wants to settle down with.1