I dated someone for 4 months but I can't seem to forget about him.. it's been 10 months since we stopped talking. He inflicted so much pain on me that by the time we stopped seeing each other my self esteem hit rock bottom. Even if I meet someone nice and sincere I can't seem to open up and I've become very guarded. How do most people get over breakups? Any tips?
Most Helpful Guy
From a relationship coaches perspective, there are a very specific things that people can do to get over a toxic person:
1) Think about what the relationship would be like if you hadn't broken up. How that toxicity would've spread and made the pain for you even worse.
2) Rediscover the "you" that you were before the relationship. Right now, you're stuck in a rut, understandably so, and it's hard for you to remember when you were happy.
3) Meaningful times with friends, family, and hobbies. I saw "meaningful" because it does no good for people to just find things to do.1
Most Helpful Girl
I got tired and annoyed of the pain and feeling pathetic and weak so I got up and went and hooked up with 2 guys. It worked and one of them is now my friends with benefits and I've fallen in love with him.0