I'm afraid to get in a relationship because I hate feeling vulnerable. When I am feeling vulnerable about something, my parents can sometimes tell immediately. Other times, it takes them awhile but they'll figure it out. For example, if I'm upset about something, they ask what's wrong. I don't like opening up and I tell them nothings wrong. They'll pushing me for answers, I will tell them something else and say that I'm upset about that when it's something entirely different. Again, eventually they figure out what I'm really upset about. But with him, it's so different. It's like he wants to help me and it doesn't scare him. I think I like him but I have difficulty being around him when he makes me feel vulnerable. I have a feeling that he sees right through the act that I'm confident, happy, and I know what I'm doing with my life but it doesn't scare him.
Most Helpful Guy
I suggest that you start with something small as far as vulnerability. Working your way up. The vulnerability scale. name something small that makes you feel a little vulnerable and scale it 1 being not vulnerable and 10 being very vulnerable. I use that all the time. Ask me anything if you are not sure what I fully mean?1
Most Helpful Girl
I think you're stuck on vulnerability being a negative thing. You said it yourself, it doesn't scare him that he knows the real you. Doesn't that provide you with comfort? That when he sees you at your weakest, he's determined to mend you to health? Try to strip any preconceived notions that being vulnerable = prone to attack. I hope I'm making sense!1