Is this myth true, cause I fall into this category. We really get a bad wrap for this, I don't think it's fair. Let me know how you feel about it?
Most Helpful Girl
I have explained and re-explained this but I'll continue to do it until "nice guys" get it:
You don't finish last for being nice. You "finish last" by relying on basic human kindness as your only "selling point" to women, thinking that simply being kind is enough to win a person over. It isn't. It isn't because "girls love assholes", it's that girls love guys who stand out; who have multidimensional personalities beyond being nice and willing to hold a door. Sure being nice is awesome, but so is confidence; so is a strong set of personal opinions; so is passion; a good sense of humor; physical attractiveness - all of these things build up a partner worth dating.
Killing them with kindness doesn't work in the dating world because it doesn't necessarily set you apart. It isn't that being nice isn't a good quality, but if it's your only good quality and you're otherwise too shy, lacking in self esteem, negative, etc, it isn't going to make a good case for you if you're standing up against a genuinely down to earth, confident, guy.
That's the real reason why nice guys "finish last" in their books.5
Most Helpful Guy
If you're unnattractive and lack assertiveness then yeah.
Also if you're a relationship oriented guy. This is because any girl you date will probably have had more sexual partners than you and you will technically finish last in the sense that you only get a chance with her AFTER she has already slept around and that when you do date her she will make you wait longer and put in more effort before being willing to sleep with you.
Meanwhile the "badboys" probably got into bed with her on the first date without having to put in any effort.2
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