Most Helpful Girl
I have explained and re-explained this but I'll continue to do it until "nice guys" get it:
You don't finish last for being nice. You "finish last" by relying on basic human kindness as your only "selling point" to women, thinking that simply being kind is enough to win a person over. It isn't. It isn't because "girls love assholes", it's that girls love guys who stand out; who have multidimensional personalities beyond being nice and willing to hold a door. Sure being nice is awesome, but so is confidence; so is a strong set of personal opinions; so is passion; a good sense of humor; physical attractiveness - all of these things build up a partner worth dating.
Killing them with kindness doesn't work in the dating world because it doesn't necessarily set you apart. It isn't that being nice isn't a good quality, but if it's your only good quality and you're otherwise too shy, lacking in self esteem, negative, etc, it isn't going to make a good case for you if you're standing up against a genuinely down to earth, confident, guy.
That's the real reason why nice guys "finish last" in their books.5THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Guy
What do you consider a nice guy. The nice guys who finish last are those who are willing to do things they don't want to or may feel they have to for the approval of others. They act nice for the reason to be accepted not because they won't to and yes there's a significant difference between the two. The 'nice guy' believes that by doing things for a girl or just being nice will allow them to be accepted by the girl and they believe that she SHOULD be happy to be with him for all the nice things he's done for her. in other words is a passive way of wanting to control her. Which wouldn't be appealing and isn't admirable. That's the kind of nice guy who would finish last. If anything though just be your natural self and don't go out of your way to please others.3THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE