Me and this girl get along but I notice she like back pedals for example she is the one who ask me out she gave me her phone number and then the next day texting me asking me when are we going on our "lunch date" I ended up taking her out for some beer and food it was fun then the next day she text me when are we going on our next lunch date?
So next week comes and we joke around like usual and I text our lunch date was fun let's go again this Friday and she replied "what do you mean it was just lunch". Umm WTF it made it awkward. Few weeks go by we hang out had our first kiss etc she had a kid she send me pictures of and the daughters smile makes my heart melt and I tell her this and it makes her smile etc.
So she sends me a pic of her kid again one night and I say how the pic of her and the girl I'm dating is playing my heart strings and she replied calm down it's just a picture of my kid you haven't met her...
There were other instances were she would be one way then she will do the same that was positive but will back pedal like OK it's a lunch date then it was just lumch
I'm I over thinking or is this a red flag for something major to come out of her in the future? It's only been 2 months
Most Helpful Girl
It sounds like she has a sarcastic sense of humor and may be a little guarded. I can relate. In addition, she is a mom. She doesn't need you. She can handle herself. She chooses whether or not to be with you, so if you aren't into her or don't really like her sense of humor, she probably doesn't care. She has been puked on, peed on, pooped on and kept awake for days... Hence, she will probably never handle your feelings over something insignificant in a delicate manner.0
Most Helpful Guy
From a relationship coaches lens, I can see why you might see these as red flags. I see it as fear (understandable) from a mother that has probably had her heart ripped out in the past and so when she feels herself falling for you, perhaps too quickly, she back pedals. This isn't indicative of a player, a tease, etc. Just someone that doesn't want to make the same mistakes again. Give her time.0