I was in a casual relationship where I know I wasn't being treated the way I wanted to be. He would only talk to me when convenient for him and always made up excuses about why he was busy. After thinking about it I decided I'd had enough and in the spur of the moment I ended it via text.
After I did that he texted me almost immediately and said we should talk. he never ended up calling though and now I can't stop thinking about him. I feel like he's moved on.
Would it be really bad message him again or how can I move on?
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You clearly still have huge feels about him.
Firstly, get the wool out of your eyes and make no mistake; he clearly was just using you for sex. The problem here is that the sex was good and you are craving the feels that he gave you.
A bigger problem is that until you get over him, every relationship you get with other guys will be doomed to fail if they don't give you as intense feels as this guy did. You will constantly be comparing the guys you are with this guy you needed things with until you find a guy who gives you stronger feels that you already have or you decide to "settle" for less.
You need to think long and hard about why you ended it there when you did. He clearly took you for granted and he is only now trying to reach you because he is afraid of losing you. The problem is that he was never really commiting to you and was never planning on (otherwise he wouldn't have treated you the way you did).
Focus on self improvement, not just your career but your lifestyle as well. Get stuck into being healthy, socialise with friend, look at other potential mates and get lost into your hobbies. It's going to take hard work but if you set your mind to it, you forget him and the feels will subside.0