I have been seeing someone for about 2 months and last week I met his best friend and we all hung out for a couple of hours. Today, I received a message from his friend through social media saying he finds it unfair that the guy I've been seeing gets to take me out and not him. I responded that the comment was inappropriate, but should I tell the guy I'm seeing?
The two of them are extremely close and are roommates. My worry is that the guy I'm seeing put his friend up to this to test me - I can't imagine the guy I'm seeing doing that but at the same time the two of them are so close that it seems unlikely that his friend would hit on me like that.
What should I do?
Most Helpful Guy
I think you should absolutely tell the guy that you are seeing--and not because he may have put his friend up to this. No, there are three other reasons why you should tell him:
1) Honesty is always the best policy and not telling him is as good as lying to him.
2) Your boyfriend deserves to know what kind of friend he REALLY has.
3) It will weigh on you and affect your relationship if you don't.3
Most Helpful Girl
Yes! If you care about this guy you've been seeing at all for 2 months, you should speak up about this. There is a fine line between friendship and when that person uses that friendship to engage in inappropriate conversations with the prospects of sex or romance to another that is taken. However, if you feel like your being tested by this new guy, then you need to come to terms if this is the kind of relationship you want to have: feeling like you are stepping over eggshells. Your gut feeling may be correct about this being a test. But you don't have to put up with it if this is not something you want to risk. Either way, as another user have said, screenshot the conversation if you must. If it appears like you are being tested, don't hesitate to walk out.0