We've been dating a month and a half but he hasn't made it exclusive. I've told him I don't want to see other people, but I'm starting to feel like he's getting too comfortable with that. He's never asked me to be completely exclusive and I feel like things will never progress.
Anyways, this guy on tinder is like a 10/10. He's in his residency, tall, blonde, athletic, cute smile, family guy, and seems nice. Is it bad if I go on a tinder date with him?
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Most Helpful Guy
If you want to date the other guy, then you probably don't particularly have strong feelings for the first guy. You may like the first guys attributes on paper, but I doubt you feel a great connection otherwise. Maybe not though.
"The thing is, I would be perfectly content with just dating him. However, I feel like I should keep my options open just so I don't put all my eggs in one basket"
Using the word content sounds very casual. I would ask yourself what you want instead of what you're content with. You want to keep your options open because you two don't have an agreed description identifying your relationship. I don't see anything wrong with a title Do you think that supersedes your feelings with him? Or maybe you would think officially saying "we're not in a relationship" then kissing another guy, and then saying "we're back together" is moral and feels satisfying because of the technicality. I feel like you seeing the other guy is either something you ultimately want or you're trying to use it as a leverage to fling poo in his face, because you really want him. Maybe the first guy isn't sure what he wants and you don't want to feel hurt if he's dating someone else. That's just part of the dating ritual now a days.
I would go on the date if you don't feel much with the first guy. If you seriously just want him, I don't see the point in flirting and kissing another guy.
Oh I see. You may also think you may not get the first guy so will get to know the second guy before he finds another girl? If you like the first guy and you trust your judgement with him liking you, then I would not have the new date. If he doesn't want a commitment after you ask him multiple times, he's probably isn't sure what he wants (wants to date to see more possibilities) or doesn't want to be committed in general. I hope I wasn't confusing. I feel like the isn't enough information for me to answer easily.0
Most Helpful Girl
No girl, keep your options open! I've been doing it for the last couple years. Doesn't hurt to see a couple people. As long as you're safe, you're golden 👌🏻1