A guy likes me back but because I've never been in love I'm afraid that I will mess it up with this guy. Our intimacy level goes beyond the casual hookup and silly banter and I can already feel myself pulling away even though I wish I didn't. I don't like being vulnerable. I'm afraid when we get closer, that my pulling away will screw it up.
Most Helpful Guy
lol I have the same feelings for this one girl. Just because you don't want to mess up with him don't mean that he doesn't feel the same way. Just tell him you love him and let him go. If he stares at you with puppy dog eyes. But doesn't say anything. that's a sign that he loves you too but doesn't want you to stop saying it. just risk it for him and find out what he feels.1
Most Helpful Girl
I say go for it. If it's right, it's worth it. Pulling away will ruin it.
The reason you're afraid is because you think he'll see all of you, exactly for who you are and he won't like it. If that happens, then it simply means he isn't the one and that'll be okay. A relationship can never really blossom if you hide yourself.
If you trust him, tell how you feel. Love is fun and exciting and rewarding. It's always worth it.
Regardless of what happens remember if it doesn't work out you will learn a lot about yourself when you allow yourself to be vulnerable. You were learn what you like and dislike in a relationship, in a guy. And it'll be a new kind of pain, but it will pass, and you will learn and grow. You can't avoid it forever. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable actually shows true strength in a way.
If it works out, then I don't need to tell you how great it'll be. You sound like you really care for this guy. And he cares for you. Be honest and up front with everything. I hope the best for you two.
So my advice is jump in. It's a wonderful thing.1
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