Most Helpful Guy
OK, so I'm an old geezer, too.
I'm married, but if my wife died, I'd probably want a woman in her 30's.
(I hope I'd never have to go through that.)
From your side, I don't think he's too old especially if he takes care of his health. I know a couple of men who are 75 and they play tennis (and could probably beat me) and go traveling on frequent vacations. According to the actuarial tables he'll live about another 30 years and you'll live another 50 years. If he's in good shape he'll probably do better. I'd say a good 30+ years with someone is worth it, right?
rcm1ah rudely said, "You are 31, not 18. You're not much of a young bird yourself." While I don't like his tone there is some truth to his point. Most men your age are probably looking for a woman in the 22-25 range. You're probably going to be approach by guys in their late 30's and early 40's at this point anyway. A lot of them might have baggage from previous marriages. A decent guy in his 50's may well be a better choice. An older guy is usually more mature and stable, but if he has "baggage", that should be considered a bigger factor than age.
A guy in his fifties can still produce healthy children. The risk of abnormalities is about doubled.
By the way, I don't think you're looking for a 'sugar daddy", but financial stability is a plus.
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Most Helpful Girl
My parents have a 20 year age gap as well. Right now my dad's in his 70's and my sister and I feel so bad for my mom. My dad was always great but now that he's older he's so mean and so hard to take care of and my mom's stuck with him. It's sad to see as she should be able to live her life but it's as if her life is dedicated to being his personal caregiver.
Honestly.. the only positives are the traits that made you fall in love with him, but after a few decades that man may totally morph into a stranger like what happened with my parents.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE