There is this girl at work who, I have a crush on. How should, I approach her without making it awkward? I just dont want to say anything stupid or embarrass myself, do you have any tips for shy introverts?
Most Helpful Girl
think small steps...1 the biggest thing you can do is look at a girl in her eyes and simply smile... that goes a longer way then most people think 2 say anything say hello... if that's all you do say hello and then it may be the beginning of more conversation... i think the worst thing you can do is keep thinking how shy you are because it'll only make you more aware of your problem and freeze you up... so think small steps... look her in the eye, smile and say hello... and see what happens from there... but the worst thing you can do is go up to a girl and say nice rack which i'm not sure if that ever worked i'll leave it to the other ladies on here... personally i get a lot of guys who make me feel uncomfortable... they go nice then check out my legs and ass how know is i think they're staring at my ass so i turn around and they are... girls like a shy guy anyway is really my point... i like a shy guy for many reasons so don't feel bad about yourself... there's nothing better than a sweet guy who respects women like you do and i'm sure you do.1
Most Helpful Guy
Stop crushing on the girl so much and take some initiative before your feelings grow even stronger. When you're around her, pretend like you don't like her and try to stay comfortable. Remember she poops and pees and all that, just a human being, not the goddess of your fantasies. Pretend she's really unattractive or something, dunno. Try to fight against the crush.
It gets easier when you stop crushing so much and just find a girl attractive and worth getting to know in a more intimate context when you ask her out. Then you can be comfortable talking to her and not nervous at all. You tend to do that after some share of girlfriends, to not be so impressed and develop such strong feelings without even dating the girl, without much mutual participation on her part.
Until then, try not to crush and try to fight against the crush when you talk to her.1
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