I knew everything before going into the relationship cause i happen to be friends with his ex, but it kind of is just hitting me now that the only way i can be his first is through sex with him. He is my first for everything and i can't be his at all. I knee before but the weight of it is kind of just setting in. Like im only ever gonna he his second and he can always compare me to her (says he can't compare us cause we are completely different, i think thats bs), and he has felt everything that he has with me before with her. I know im being a bit unreasonable he having dated her for eleven months and dating me for four. It still is getting to me far more than i can handle. It only really set in after lunch with his ex today who is my friend and she started talking about oral and what it was like and her first time (him and hers both) and she posted a picture on instagram with hickey that he gave her.
Most Helpful Guy
Present and future, that's the key. The past doesn't matter if it doesn't matter to him.
It's unrealistic to expect to be the "first" in terms of thoughts, at least. Even if you're with a virgin guy in your 20s, chances are that you aren't the first girl he wanted, the "first crush".
I've had my share of partners before my wife and the difference is that once I fell in love with my wife, they didn't amount to much at all. I wouldn't miss the memories much if there was a way to wipe them out and only have memories of my wife.
Dwelling on these things doesn't help at all. I know that's easier said than done, but try to adjust your frame of thought towards valuing the present and the future.0
Most Helpful Girl
If you're not his first, be something else to him. The greatest, the best, the last, the sweetest, the most loving. First is a hard title to beat, but there's something special and unique in any relationship.0