Please help! So I've been seeing a guy for nearly 2 months. It had a bit of a rocky start; we slept together on the second date and we didn't see each other for about 3 weeks after. Anyway I stayed over at his after we had sex for the first time and he didn't once cuddle or spoon. He just rolled over and in the morning he just got up and dressed. I didn't think much of it, as it was the first time and I doubted anything further would happen between us.
We continued to text afterwards and some of his messages got more sexual. He would make jokes, or refer to what I did to him during sex.
Eventually, I said I wasn't interested anymore.
He asked why, and I just said "I'm getting the impression all you want is sex or FWB"
He was surprised I felt this way and replied "I'm not just after one thing and guys can enjoy sex and still be the good ones. And sexual innuendos are just my humor"
This put me at ease, and our communication has been better since. I've stayed over at his a few more times, we have great sex, but again there is no affection afterwards... even when sleeping next to each other. I'm so confused, because he's not afraid of being affectionate in public!
I'm definitely getting to know him better; he's very open about sex and as a person he's just as mad as me. We share the same humour which is good but I think he does put on a front sometimes and isn't as confident as he looks.
What's the best way to tell him about the cuddling/affection thing?
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Just outright tell him you like to cuddle after sex. My boyfriend is the same in that he's not really big into affection but he knows I like to have a little cuddle after sex and before bed or whatever because I've told him. It shouldn't be a big deal for him at all if you just tell him.2