We continued to text afterwards and some of his messages got more sexual. He would make jokes, or refer to what I did to him during sex.
Eventually, I said I wasn't interested anymore.
He asked why, and I just said "I'm getting the impression all you want is sex or FWB"
He was surprised I felt this way and replied "I'm not just after one thing and guys can enjoy sex and still be the good ones. And sexual innuendos are just my humor"
This put me at ease, and our communication has been better since. I've stayed over at his a few more times, we have great sex, but again there is no affection afterwards... even when sleeping next to each other. I'm so confused, because he's not afraid of being affectionate in public!
I'm definitely getting to know him better; he's very open about sex and as a person he's just as mad as me. We share the same humour which is good but I think he does put on a front sometimes and isn't as confident as he looks.
What's the best way to tell him about the cuddling/affection thing?
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I’d try to be up-front about it with him. Do try to make it clear that you’re not saying there’s anything inherently wrong with him or what he’s doing. Stress that this is something that you enjoy and would like to do with him. Try to avoid statements that emphasize what he “should” do or what he “needs to do.” Instead, focus on communicating that you enjoy it, and it makes you feel even happier if you cuddle a bit after sex.
I’d also point out how you enjoy how affectionate he is at other times. Try to communicate it as something he does that you really like, indicating that you’d enjoy it after you’ve gotten “down and dirty” as well.
I’d also look at why you think you’d enjoy it. Is it because most of your significant others have done that in the past? Does it make you feel more secure? You don’t necessarily have to tell him, but it would be something for you to know about yourself.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE