so.. I've dated 4 guys in my life and all of them were either awkward, rude to me, or didn't understand me and that I'm an actual human being.
I'm not gonna be like those other people on here giving sob stories and sounds cheesy and feeling bad about themselves but I don't know what to tell a guy to get them to understand me.
men, what could a girl say to you that would make u understand her needs and that she's important? and ladies, how could I tell a guy that I'm not gonna get treated like trash and that if they want to date me they need to understand that I'm human too?
Thank u for anyone who gives feedback!
Most Helpful Guy
I'll tell you your problem.
The reason you are not successful with men is the following reasons.
1. You think guys owe you right from the start, baby!. I can tell that you have all of these demands and things where guys have to impress you all of the time and YOU KNOW WHAT. If you get used to a person they cannot keep being superman. Why do YOU be equal and think about what you offer in a relationship.
2. Let me explain this to you and use myself as an example. I want like about women is I feel they have a softness to their personality. It's like they throw an atmosphere along with a nurturing spirit in the air. When you make a woman laugh and smile it's not the same as dudes. It's more worth it to see.
The thing is I am what people would consider empathetic, sensitive, honest, loyal, very emotionally supportive, faithful, and willing to over-compromise to say the least.
But none of these personality traits have ANY value to women (you). Women go for guys because they are tall. They go to a bar and go for the loudest and most obnoxious dude then they get into longterm relationships. Then they complain like YOU right here. Yet, when the opportunity of interacting with these types of guys POUR IN they say "EEEWW, he's all boring and nice" or "in your dreams".
You have only yourself for picking guys who are dinks. You are the one who dated them and you are the one who ignored others.
So try it again and don't choose so shallowly.
Most Helpful Girl
Part of it is learning how to pick better/nicer guys. Just remember it is NOT full proof, but few things in life are guaranteed so let's minimize risk as much as possible and if we make a mistake then it's a mistake, we'll move on. If a guy is going to treat you like trash, he's not a good guy and in those cases, it doesn't matter what you tell him, he's still going to treat you like trash.
Awkward: Not sure what you mean by this?
Rude to you: Look at how he treats others, waitstaff, friends, family. If he has gotten upset in front of you, see how he handles anger. Observe how he handles frustration.
Doesn't Understand You: Allow more time for him to get to know you better?
Actual Human Being: Don't always compromise for him while he doesn't have to ever compromise for you. He'll just start taking you for granted and that sometimes slides into the, 'doesn't treat you as an actual human being' territory. I'm not saying don't compromise, what I'm saying is when a compromise is made, ensure it's actually a compromise, it's a MUTUAL concession, and not one-sided. Also with this, look at how he treats others, if he doesn't treat friends/family/waitstaff as actual human beings, he probably won't treat his girlfriend like one either.0