so.. I've dated 4 guys in my life and all of them were either awkward, rude to me, or didn't understand me and that I'm an actual human being.
I'm not gonna be like those other people on here giving sob stories and sounds cheesy and feeling bad about themselves but I don't know what to tell a guy to get them to understand me.
men, what could a girl say to you that would make u understand her needs and that she's important? and ladies, how could I tell a guy that I'm not gonna get treated like trash and that if they want to date me they need to understand that I'm human too?
Thank u for anyone who gives feedback!
Most Helpful Guy
it depends on what exactly happen on those previous relatiobships. I know that as a guy I just wanted to show my love for an ex. However when she constantly compared me to guys, even though to me she is one of a kind, kind of made me feel like shit. We were long distance after awhile it kind of got tiresome always being compared to guys and just being depressed not being able to be with her, that it became hard to satisfy her need of communication. Anyways, she was just not honest with what she wanted from me, but she didn't think about how her choice of conversation made me feel either. Her friends, that barely know her, told her I was worthless and I didn't care about her needs, but that wasn't true. However that was what she chose to believe.. No one is perfect and no one will ever be, sometimes there is something deeper. It is not just about him understanding you, but you understanding him as well. Just need to be patient and no what you want. Don't be blunt because anyone would get scared haha, but from my perspective be honest and use your previous experience to explain why you are saying that. Just be careful, anyone can say "I'm not like that I'll be different" but by being honest at least they know you are not gonna tolerate their shit.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
Part of it is learning how to pick better/nicer guys. Just remember it is NOT full proof, but few things in life are guaranteed so let's minimize risk as much as possible and if we make a mistake then it's a mistake, we'll move on. If a guy is going to treat you like trash, he's not a good guy and in those cases, it doesn't matter what you tell him, he's still going to treat you like trash.
Awkward: Not sure what you mean by this?
Rude to you: Look at how he treats others, waitstaff, friends, family. If he has gotten upset in front of you, see how he handles anger. Observe how he handles frustration.
Doesn't Understand You: Allow more time for him to get to know you better?
Actual Human Being: Don't always compromise for him while he doesn't have to ever compromise for you. He'll just start taking you for granted and that sometimes slides into the, 'doesn't treat you as an actual human being' territory. I'm not saying don't compromise, what I'm saying is when a compromise is made, ensure it's actually a compromise, it's a MUTUAL concession, and not one-sided. Also with this, look at how he treats others, if he doesn't treat friends/family/waitstaff as actual human beings, he probably won't treat his girlfriend like one either.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE