I have never had a boyfriend. I'm a virgin and never kissed anyone. I have boundaries too... Anyways, when meeting/talking to guys, I have this hang up that I do not want to be with a guy who has been in a relationship or kissed someone before. I wanted to share my firsts with someone. I do not like the fact of the guy being in a serious relationship before me... I'm not like other girls... When in a relationship, I would do more of a courtship kind of... Should i stick with this moral/boundary?
- Don't stick with that moral, go into a relationship with a guy who had already been in a relationship/kissedVote A
- Stick to that moral! If that's what you think is meant to be, stick with it and the right guy will come around. That will be special. But be friends with the other guys.Vote B
- Other: Please explain!Vote C
Most Helpful Guy
OK that is a hard one. Honestly you will be hard pressed to find a guy like that. While not impossible but hard.
I know what you mean. I have never even finished a date yet. I would like a girl that has never kissed a guy yet or been in a serious relationship either. Actually oddly that is much easier than I thought it would be strangely. Though those girls Id say have more problems. Often they are just looking for a specific guy who they imagined as the one.
For guys I'm going to imagine a lot of the same things. He is not sure how to do stuff since your his first girlfriend. He will make noob mistakes and he will have a hard time relating and dealing with you.
I suggest looking for a guy that you get along with and have good chemistry with then check your requirements.
#waiting till marriage.1
Most Helpful Girl
Do what is right for YOU. Not what everybody else thinks! This is your relationship and remember that your equally responsible for what happens if it fails. So if you say you want somebody who has 0 experience in a relationship then fine! Nothing wrong with it. These days you don't knkw who did what. Has sex with whom and what kind of sex. Especially oral sex. The amount of germs, bateria, and diseases you can contract from that alone, especially without a condom is very risky for your health. More so because your a woman, and all STDS primarily affects womem alone. While most affect both sexes.
That is one of the main reasons why I would never do that. And would perfer what you have going on with this if I wasn't celibate. However, the more stricter the boundaries the more dofficult it would be to find the right match that fits that criteria. It's not unrealistic. Never think that it's wrong to believe in this. Morals and boundaries are essential to any safe and lovong relationship. Sadly you will come across a lot of people who don't agree with them. Wjat you need is a support system of trusted friends and family who believes in your stance. Everything has a consequence and a price to pay. But which one are you will to sacrifice? As a few guys on here have said, you can't trust everybody that claims they never did what you don't want. It's mainly so about their mentality. Because you can have a virgin with 0 romance and dating experience with a dirty, lustful mind, and a person who is experienced who isn't about sex but realized they made a mistake. People aren't perfect. Just away from the ones that peer pressure you and have conflicting views than you. Never date somebody who will settle for you because you asked. If it too much for them and they don't agree with it out of their own free will; let them go. Don't date them.1