I find I can't help it.
It isn't even just things like looks - if I'm being perfectly honest I think I'm probably more physically attractive than her. But with things like interests, I feel like they fit better i. e. were both into sports, hiking, whereas I'm more into music, arts etc. I also am terrified about meeting his family because I know they really liked her, and they were together for over two years. I also wonder if when we have sex if she was better than me...
How do I get over this? It's driving me crazy.
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You're not alone. I personally think I'm more physically attractive than her but with interests, they definitely fit better, both into the same sport and would practice together, both play video games, granted I play one with him but she is better than me at it, while I dislike sports, I cook/bake, dance. He doesn't talk about his friends/girlfriends to his family but his parents knew about her while they don't know about me at all. She was his first, while he was mine, and since it was so special for me, I wonder if he holds his sexual experiences with her as special or better. I definitely compared myself and my relationship with him to his previous relationship a lot in the beginning of our relationship. But as time passed, I realized, he has made greater effort for me than he has for her, he has gone out of his way to do something out of character because it would make me happy while he never went out of his way for her. I also asked him what he finds special about me, and whenever I start comparing, I just remember those reasons, and I remember that he does things for me that he hasn't for her, and I feel better.2