So I'm running into a wall. Guys want to hang out with me, have sex with me, date me. But no one wants a relationship with me. I'm myself and I attract a lot of men but none of these men want to be serious with me. Plenty of guys have told me I'm "gf/wife material." Yet these same guys don't want that.
It's me. My friends have stayed in relationships since we were 14. We're 22 and they're now in long term relationships. I'm just getting over the fifth or sixth guy in a row.
I want to know how to change my luck in dating. This can't be normal. I'm tired of flings, I'm ready to be with someone longterm. I just don't know how to get there.
22. Not a lot of money because of school. School/hw during the week and work on the weekend so no time to really do anything. I'm black (ethnicity does matter). Feminine. Laid back. Goofy. Doesn't take life too serious. Working on a career. Straight forward, honest, loyal. Doesn't tolerate lying, disrespect, or anything like that. I do NOT have sex with everyone I date.
Most Helpful Guy
''I'm tired of flings, I'm ready to be with someone longterm. ''
This is where you went wrong. If all you want is a relationship then that's all that you accept. You having flings or casual stuff against your own desires just shows a lack of discernment and no willpower.
''I'm just getting over the fifth or sixth guy in a row.''
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Most Helpful Girl
I make it clear early in the getting to know each other stage that I don't casually date or hookup. My personality conveys that I won't tolerate dudes who expect either. Some girls want to get a guy so bad that they'll behave more passively and fluid as to not scare potential guys off, which in turn hurts them by making a guy think that he doesn't have to take things seriously.
I think it's better to chase off the ones who don't have the same values as you rather than hope the wrong guys will change.3