what would be the reason you cheat on your current girlfriend with your ex girlfriend, not just once but 3 separate times.
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This does not excuse the behavior...
Everyone has some basic emotional needs, like recreational companionship (doing things together), physical affection (holding hands, kissing, etc.), words of affirmation (compliments, expressions of understanding, etc) and others. When you are first dating someone, you are very attune to their needs, almost like you can sense what they are thinking and then you act on it, effortlessly fulfilling their emotional desires.
Over time, we tend to take the other person's commitment for granted. We can't always read their needs, and it would take more effort to act on it if we did. We start to assume that the other person knows our needs, and is deliberately witholding their love from us, or worse yet, we think that if they really cared, they would already know what we meant, and would be doing it.
Instead of talking to them about it, and patiently explaining what we need in a patient and loving way, we grow more dissatisfied and distant.
Men and women tend to cheat because they aren't getting what they need or want from their partner, and they find someone else that seems more attuned to their needs and willing to connect with them.
Building an affair-proof relationship isn't rocket science, but it takes effort and commitment from both people. I recommend any book by Jon Gottman if you want to learn more.0
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