I been talking with this girl for about 2 weeks. We originally met up on OKC and later trade phones, with a solid week of WhatsApp conversations. Yesterday me and her met, we had a great dinner but the Date got cut short as something came up and she had to cut the date short.
I wasn't too critical and as a person I understand things do pop-up at unexpected moments. Anyways she gotten home and send me a message saying she enjoyed herself, she had fun and apologized for cutting the date short.
What surprised me is today. Today it seems like she is avoiding me, she hasn't been as active on WhatsApp as she usually is, and by usually I mean we text back and forth for hours on, like 4-5 hours easy. Today however it was barely 6 messages, and what's been surprising me is that she pop-up Online yet doesn't read my replies to her previous messages that where send hours ago.
At this moment I feel pretty bummed out as I don't know what I could have done wrong and to be honest everything seemed to be going well. I kind of hate myself since I tend to dwell on little things and over think, leading to more attempts to breakdown a scenario which is followed by more overthinking, which essentially leads to me depressing myself.
Yeh I know one day isn't a big deal, but again it doesn't seem like her regular self. After 2 weeks of constant chatting and then after our date, bam. I don't know if she is pushing me away for whatever reason or simply decided against dating me. But what strikes me is that we discussed how both of us care about honesty and being upfront. Which would mean that if you don't believe you will "click" with someone you can tell them "off" in a nice matter, instead of just killing of contact with them.
Well I personally will wait till Monday, if this continues I guess she no longer wants to keep in touch, and just does not want to tell me to "fuck off" upfront, vs. pushing me aside with isolation.
- Yes, you probably fucked up and should move on60%(3)33%(4)Vote14%(1)
- No, she might just be busy...0%(0)25%(3)Vote43%(3)
- Give her some time, maybe she is trying to decide40%(2)42%(5)Vote43%(3)
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The exact thing happened to me. Went on two nice dates with this guy, and then suddenly I got no more responses from his side. When I asked what was wrong he said he said it was the distance because I was gonna move away so he couldn't see future despite the fact he liked me a lot. Again no talking. A few days later I told him I made decision and that I wanted to stay (not because of him). "Suddenly" he didn't like me anymore. Bottom line is, this girl is more or less ghosting on you and rather than having the damn guts to tell you it's not gonna work out, she's slowly disappearing hoping that you will get the message. No, you didn't do anything wrong, she just doesn't think you guys belong together. And that's okay, because we can't belong to everyone. The real question is, do you want to be with a girl who doesn't have any respect for other people and to just hurt them like this? I sure wouldn't.1
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