I had a date with a guy I got along really well while chatting online, when the date came up he was really nice; picked me up, open my car door for me, paid for dinner, asked me genuine questions and opened up about himself so it wasn't one sided. A few awkward moments but what first date doesn't come with that. We actually got on pretty well and had similar interests.
Halfway through dinner he asked if I had any more plans for the night and He invited me to his place to watch a tv show since we discussed our favourites, so we get to his place and did so. But he made no moves which I thought maybe it was nerves. Stayed in the middle of the couch and only started to get a bit closer in the end til we realised it was late and we both work the next day.
Said we had a good time and enjoyed the show but no plans for a second date when he dropped me off home. I waited a few days to see if he would contact me, didn't, I contacted him. Had a short conversation, stopped.
Gave it another few days- friend told me to take initiative and ask him out this time so I did, messaged him asking if he would like to hang again at some stage. Few minutes later I get ' Hey, I've already got plans pretty much all this week but I'll let you know if something changes'. I know when I say it I do try to work around to hang out with them so I thought fair enough but someone told me that he means 'No' in a nice way. I guess I'm asking is it worth just not bothering?
I will note that I've had a date make moves and end with a kiss and never heard from him again so I don't think it's a big of a deal as people make it.
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90% chance he was trying to reject you but used the most basic excuse "I'll see" if he wanted to see you he could make time to. then again small % people actually are really busy for multiple reason so i would swivel it a week. if it seems he's making no effort into making plans again move on.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE