It's simple my boyfriend has asked me while having sex if he can eat me out but truthfully although it sounds exciting it makes me feel shy any advice as to how to overcome this? I know I should probably talk to him because I'm not really into getting oral but I'm ok with giving
Most Helpful Guy
I'm the same as you. I wasn't a fan of receiving, but I loved giving. You know, just let him down there slowly. It can't just be one sided. It's weird, I know it is (hell, I'm a dude who isn't really down for blowjobs haha), but you start realizing:
1. This is your partner, not some stranger.
2. They want to please you
3. Trying something new isn't going to hurt and you might enjoy it.
I'm starting to enjoy this. Just the fact that it's coming from my love makes it all worthwhile, really.1
Most Helpful Girl
I used to feel this way too but girl, trust me - make your pleasure a priority in the very beginning. Don't be all give and no take, or you'll lose interest in having sex over time.
There isn't much you have to do personally, other than "maintenance." If you're shy and self conscious you obviously can consider going to the bathroom to freshen that shit up or trim up/shave assuming you do, and from there just lay there, relax, and if something feels good, say it, if it doesn't, don't be afraid to give him pointers. "Faster, slower, higher, lower."
Also if you think that there is something he could be doing to enhance the experience (just as an example here, not a suggestion per se) don't be afraid to request he say, insert a finger or two - you get the gist.
Good luck to you.4