I have baby feelings for this guy, and as soon as he started to like me back, im noticing that the feelings I have for him become more distant. He is very very very attractive to me, but a bit on the nerdy side. Not boosting my ego but people consider me very attractive, but it's not like i'm this popular thing at all, i'm known by many people, but not "popular". I feel bad because I know this guy is sweet and I feel like I would like him more if he had a higher social status. This is CRAZY RIDICULOUS and i don't know why I feel this way but its making me feel so sad that this is the way my brain works. What should I do to get over this thought?
I would like a guy if he was more popular and I feel terrible for thinking this way, what should I do?
What Guys Said 3
I reaaaally don't understand girls like you. I mean, come on, what does a guys social status have to do with anything? If he's sweet, he's sweet so go there and get him! Social status won't get you anything since you're under 18, being popular at school just makes a pressure on you and makes you feel that you have to be a tip top person for everyone to see so that they don't judge you. That is obviously deeply brainwired into you since you scale attraction by their social status. You should really think about cooling in down a bit with all the "being popular" thing. There are many more things to think about in life, meaningful thing. I'm sure that nice guy will bring you more joy and happiness that being popular.1
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Hypergamy at its finest. Also, people usually say girls are attractive even when they aren't to not hurt her feelings, which ends up inflating their ego to believe they are better than what they really are.
What to do: Think about yourself as an ugly girl and him being the next Mark Zuckerburg (creator of Facebook), or say fuck it and move on.0
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