Is she right? Are some people just "too innocent", too fat, or too young to be taken seriously?
Most Helpful Guy
I'll tackle the details for you. But short answer. You should take heed and follow your own instincts.
"probably using you."
- that only happens when a girl has nothing to offer, she's boring and she does nothing to get to know the guy, or could be she aleays playing the male role. She has too much make up and you can't tell her anything. Those girls get used.
" guys only respect and like girls with slim waists and no body fat."
True. To a degree. Guys don't mind body fat as long as your working it off, slim waist is depending upon the guy.
" too shy to be having sex."
One thing guys hate is a girl taking too long to have sex. If the girl is too shy, insecure or is scared then it's best to let him know before hand.
In total if all these are true your best bet is to stay friends. I'm with your mom in this one. 80%.
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Most Helpful Girl
I say that your mother is being very unrealistic. Not trying to assume, but she slunds immature and probably jealous. None of what she said about you and guys preferences makes sny sense. How does that apply to you?
What I gathered from what you discribed is exactly that: she's talking about you. Now here is the main thing about everything she said. The guy is older right? Most older guys sadly is hard to describe depending on age and your age. If he is like nearing his 30's, or mid 30s and your like 18,19 young then yeah. I will be highly suspicious of that as to why he can't or won't attract women around his age. The reality is a lot of guys as well as girls use each other in their own way, not just for sex. Being slim is just a society standard by peer pressure and social conditioning of what makes a woman sexy and ideal for men. And sadly, being intoverted, shy or socially awkward tend to not do well in dating when society tells you that being an extrovert and the opposite of that is, once again, ideal. And innocence, mainly sexual integrity and staying a virgin till marriage is considered prudish to secular people.
What she said has some truth to the overall reality of society. But the thing is that we don't know you, and who you are as a person to based those judgements on. What matters is that you knkw yourself as a person and that your wise enough to make proper decisons. Right now you lack a lot of confidence. And until you get away from your mother with her abusive way of tearing you, you won't know unless you try. I would not suggest dating men over 5 years. But unless you know what his intentions are, your stuck. But depending on his relationship views and preference. Nearly over 90% of people date for a sexual relationship in some way or form. I would tell you to wait till marriage for sex. You don't sound like you would be able to hand the consequences of it without that kind of trust in the first place. And your sensitive. But I don't know what you believe. I just feel that your making a mistake dating right now knowing you have all these insecurities that can destroy this relationship if you lack belief in yourself.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE