If you haven't been dating long, you may still be trying to decide if this one is a reasonable prospect or whether you just need to move on to the next "contestant." So, maybe you aren't ready for anything physical beyond holding hands and maybe a goodnight kiss if it isn't too slobbery!
What if your partner surprises you by trying to kiss you, or trying to fondle you, when you aren't yet ready? Of course, if you tell him, "Slow down! We're not ready for that!" and he ignores you, you want to tell him to drop dead and have a lousy life.
But suppose that he says, "Okay. I'm sorry. I'm just really attracted to you," and then he acts like a gentleman for the rest of that date. Is that a deal breaker? Do you say to yourself, "Well, I don't blame him. No man has ever been able to control himself around me!"? Do you think "Get me outta here. I never wanna see this loser again!"? How does that behavior factor in to your decision about whether to try another date?
Most Helpful Girl
If he respects my decision and understands that I'm not ready yet then I will automatically respect him more myself and would not mind going on another date as long as I enjoyed the date to begin with. A guy acting like a gentleman is never going to be a deal breaker.3
Most Helpful Guy
I pull away. My love language is physical touch and it sets off internal alarms if / when a gal even touches me too quickly after meeting me.0