So we have been best friends for a few years and recently we developed feelings and we told each other and now he wants to date me but my parents won't let it happen and it's not worth destroying my relationship with my parents so we both agreed not to date. There is no changing that. Please answer taking that decision into consideration.
So here's the problem; He basically wants to keep things exactly the same between us (being best friends) but wants us to "acknowledge that we have feelings for each other " and "act like we have feelings for eachother". So pretty much he still wants to date me just without the label? Of course, if we are not officially dating then he isn't allowed to have expectations and goals in whatever we are calling the relationship. So he doesn't have the right to tell me that I can't flirt and hang out with other guys because we are not dating. (Just an example)
Anyways, he's acting like he can ask me not to do stuff like that which to me is not okay unless you are dating exclusively.
What should I do? We can't really date so I'm not sure what he wants from this whole "relationship" thing or whatever we are calling it? Please explain your thought process in this situation guys. I just want to know what is probably going through his mind.
Most Helpful Guy
Things like hanging, cuddling, going places together all when having feelings is considered dating in my book. You don't have to tell people you are or admit it but it is. It seems to be one of those things where the technicality of the word is making you draw lines in the sand. Don't try so hard to make it complicated or it will ruin your relationship.
Your parents probably don't want you sleeping with him but since they seem to allow you to be together it's hard to tell.
You ultimately decide what you want most and he can't make you wait for him (which seems like what he is doing).1
Most Helpful Girl
What I'd guess is going through his mind is that he wants as close to a dating relationship with you as he can get. If you'd like to be dating him and think you can get away with "dating" him but not in name, then go along with it but ONLY as long as he's willing to abide by the same limits he wants you to abide by-- like if he doesn't want you to date other guys, he can't date other girls, etc..2