So here's the problem; He basically wants to keep things exactly the same between us (being best friends) but wants us to "acknowledge that we have feelings for each other " and "act like we have feelings for eachother". So pretty much he still wants to date me just without the label? Of course, if we are not officially dating then he isn't allowed to have expectations and goals in whatever we are calling the relationship. So he doesn't have the right to tell me that I can't flirt and hang out with other guys because we are not dating. (Just an example)
Anyways, he's acting like he can ask me not to do stuff like that which to me is not okay unless you are dating exclusively.
What should I do? We can't really date so I'm not sure what he wants from this whole "relationship" thing or whatever we are calling it? Please explain your thought process in this situation guys. I just want to know what is probably going through his mind.
Most Helpful Guy
So... What he might be getting at is a type of relationship where you're not 'dating' but you're exclusive. Not romantic but not not romantic. Basically he's trying to get you to be with him anyway. So like you said, not the label. He has NO right to ask you to do anything or not to do anything. If his feelings are being hurt then that's his problem. It's just courtesy not to do it in front of him. He's gotta move on and if you're already flirting with other guys then I'm assuming you already have. Either he gets with it and you act like friends, or ditch him. It sucks, but there's nothing to be gained trying to tie you down when he's got no chance.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
What I'd guess is going through his mind is that he wants as close to a dating relationship with you as he can get. If you'd like to be dating him and think you can get away with "dating" him but not in name, then go along with it but ONLY as long as he's willing to abide by the same limits he wants you to abide by-- like if he doesn't want you to date other guys, he can't date other girls, etc..2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE