I've never had a relationship. I've dated, guys have ghosted me, I was at the almost point.
After watching all of my friends go through relationships, guys I liked going for my friends and never having anything successful myself I became determined to find someone. I'm obsessed with it. Overall I'm happy with myself and I'm okay being single but then my friends tell me about something great in their relationship and I get sick to my stomach because they remind I'm not doing well at dating. It's so unhealthy. I think I found someone and tell my friends I got it wrong again. Then I beat myself up for weeks because I fucked up again.
I don't know what to do. Right now I'm sworn off all men and I'm rejecting everyone but I don't want to hate men. It's not their fault. I want to stop feeling shitty it's not happening for me and not even think about it. How can I when it feels like a slap in my face everytime I'm the one who is always alone?
Most Helpful Guy
It sounds like you are wanting more to have a status symbol or impress others.
You are doing exactly what you are suppose to be doing except for bearing yourself up.
You do not want to date just to date. You're respecting yourself more than than that. You are not missing out on anything. How many people have had poor experiences or broken hearts over and over that would love to be just fine by themselves. Most of us go through many broken relationships and breakups by dating the wrong person (s).
It took me a long time to figure this out. Plenty of regret and wasted time always searching for someone to make me feel worthy, just because of that stupid status symbol idea.
It wasn't till I got to being just perfectly fine being by myself and looking for anybody when the RIGHT ONE the ONLY one crossed my path effortlessly and unexpectedly.
the only suggestion for you is to stop beating yourself up.
Everything else you are doing is exactly what you should be doing. So congratulations.
There is no need to look for him. god is preparing him for you all's you have to do is believe you will have that special someone someday. That is pretty much it. Simple and easy. Continue on and you'll be blessed because you sound like quite the catch with your self respect.
Congratulations on having no regrets lol.1
Most Helpful Girl
Okay. I'm going to tell you what I told another girl. You need to just not think about dating at all, and just have fun and do what makes you happy. You see, people can pick up on when you're looking for a boyfriend. You give off a certain energy, not detectable by you, that inadvertently puts pressure on potential matches and in turn, turns them off. However, when you're out just having fun, doing your thing, there's a different energy about you that makes you so much more approachable. There's not that "invisible" pressure that puts people off.
So, please, stop looking for someone. Don't even let dating enter your mind. Just enjoy yourself.7