Have you ever asked a lady to go out?
Yes but they aren't interested because I suck
And I guess am boring by what a couple girls used to tell me even though I have hobbys and travel.
The fact that you feel that way about yourself is a large part of the problem
I've only recently become like this for the past 5 years i used to be resllly enthusiastic and confident but as time goes on and once I hit 40 I kind of stopped caring but still nothing
You need to find some hobbies and learn to live yourself
But I do have hobbies and I travel all over I pretty much have fulfilled my life and do everything that I enjoy
That's what I'm saying I've done everything that I've wanted to
Why don't you ask a lady out?
I do but it never works out
Maybe you're looking in the wrong places, what have you tried?
Besides high school I tried organizations and clubs in college, I went to clubs and bars but I felt the atmosphere was more for random sex with strangers, after college, my line of work is mostly other males, in my free time, I'm part of a hiking group but it's mostly older people and I volunteer as well but the same thing there a lot of either older people volunteering, I also for sport play tennis and am involved in a club but no luck there, I also go to the gym but I have found from women's advice and my own experience that women do not like to be bothered or disturbed in the gym or out in the street in stores like supermarkets or other places, I'm involved in some other activities but other than that that's it, and here I am.
I don't dress in anyway that's offensive I wear t shirts with jeans and a nice pair of shoes sometimes I wear polos and or button up shirts, I groom myself and keep my fingernails short everything that you are suppose to I don't smell bad I shower everyday, l am in good shape and always have been, I don't drink etc I have a successful life and a great job and life that's I love but nothing, I have had friends that have made the wrong decisions on the other hand and have nowhere near the involvement that I do or the drive that I have with wanting to do stuff or accomplish goals and women seem to come to them ironically, and a lot of times these are girls that I think I would have more in common with but I don't know what a lot of these guys have, I've known guys that have women pay for everything and treat them like an ATM or no drive in life etc and women are attracted to them, I always get you are a nice man and women would be lucky or love to have you as a boyfriend but nothing
Have you tried online dating?
Yes but nothing I had one incident too that I felt was a setup or made me a little uncomfortable because the girl showed up with a guy which weirded me out but that happened awhile ago, I have also tried reaching out to all women, at my age I know many have been married and divorced or have kids and tbh Idc but I can't get anything I just don't get it, I feel like maybe I send off a scent that must repel women I just don't understand I know that not everybody finds someone but Jesus I didn't think that nobody would be interested, I'm a mellow guy and I really am not the aggressive type either I don't know if people must think I'm weak or something but I just don't know.
There's someone out there for everyone! Don't give up :)
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