but what if you do have strong feelings?
Well then it's harder to bear. I've been in that position only once. But you can make a deal not to tell each other, and when you don't know, it's fine.
so your partner didn't tell you he hooked up with another girl when you were in an open? do you think he told the other girl he has a girlfriend
He did tell me, because I prefer to know. And no, he didn't, because they had talked only about sex and none of them wanted more. Which if you ask me was still unfair to the girl.
I agree it's still unfair. Would you do an open again
Yes, I would. I want my partner to be happy and if that's the way, why not.
But am I a prude for not believing in them for myself? I just know myself and I'd get to insecure or weird or Hurt
Well then it's not for you. Simple as that. The only thing I have against it is my low self esteem, but I don't get easily hurt. For me it's okay if my SO has sex with others, as long as they're not emotionally engaged. But if you think it will leave you hurt and insecure, just don't do it. Your partner can get over it, if he loves/wants you.
That's how I feel
how old are you guys? seems like still at the age for having fun. He's just not commited yet
We broke up I was 25 he was 28
yeah, maybe he still enjoy his single life
he just doesn't know what he wants. so why is he an open relationship why not just be friends and benefits with this chick?
this chick? thats a weird way to refer yourself.maybe he does not separate open relationship with friends with benefits. or maybe he also want some sort of "claim" over you. say a guy approached you, he can tell him to go away?
we aren't together anymore. but he's in a open relationship with this girl now whose definitely not his type. works at a call centre, bigger than him, blue and yellow hair, just not attractive. i dont get it
well, whatever makes him happy i guess
i guess. do guys like girls bigger than them?
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Thanks I don't know why my ex made it seem like a monogamous relationship is not normal. He was mean to me at the end
he's a guy who wants his cake and eat to eat it too. Be very happy you are done with him.
Can I get ur opinion on something
Sure, whats your question?
My ex is in an open relationship with this chick who is not very pretty, bigger than him, has blue and yellow hair, and has a job at a call centre. he's always wanted he wanted someone who is ambitious and his type is skinny. She has naked photos on this site fet life it's just gross. I don't get it. I'm so confused
Why are you confused? She gives him what he wants. He is yoir ex. Dont care what or who he does. Also don't judge a man on his past and his past type. Thats not the man who he is today. People change their types. I know a few guys who married bigger women and love it and never did before. Stop thinking if this. it's only makin the pain and loneliness last longer. Bottom line. Move the fuck on.
I know. But does it mean our relationship when it happened wasn't speecial?
Hard to say. Probably not as he didn't respect you or your wishes ie when he flipped out that you thought it was weird to be in an open relationship and that he was mean to you about it.
so im not some kind of prude for not believe in them? my ex is an open relationship and i just dont geti
They're not for everybody, so it is probably best that he is your ex.
do you believe in them?
TBH, I would only be in one if I didn't really care that much about her in that way, so if it was a friends with benefits type relationship.
Ya I kinda agree. So if you really liked the girl you wouldn't? Do you think it has anything to do that his dad cheated on his mom growing up all the time so this is his way of not hurting someone
That is possible; people are really influenced by their parents' relationship.
So guys like monogamy too
Well in this situation I'd say yes. If both are seeing each other and then all of a sudden someone suggests an open relationship definitely a no.However if at the very beginning both parties agreed to a friends with benefits type of relationship I think it's fine as long as both agreed.
I agree at the beginning it's different. But I'm talking about once you've been dating for a while and feelings have formed. Not after the first or second date of course
Like hookups/early stages of a relationship is one thing. An open relationship is a whole other
Yeah so I believe that once you're both in a committed relationship I don't think it's ok to have an open relationship.I have the same views on swing.
i totally agree its different when you are just friends with benefits or casually hooking up. but when you love someone, one person is at least going to get hurt. im glad you shared your opinion i was freaking out for a sec that i wasn't liberal or whatever
Well I hope you're thanking me for my opinion and not because I agree with you.
no its just nice to get a guys perspective dont have too many male friends.
Ah very well. If it makes you feel any better I don't have many female friends lol.
i know but once youve dated this person for a while and care about them i dont think opens can work
my ex is in an open relationship i just dont get it