Okay no we are not dating yet and don't know if he wants to because it seems like he rather go hang out with he's family every weekend other than me
Of course, family is important. If he was doing something very unimportant, you could have made this assumptions.
Well I don't know if he was doing something unimportant, he was just hanging with his cousin four wheeling I think
i meant something not involving family. like going to bar.
Well he does hang out with friends after work sometimes
okay, what i meant was,Family is important. Him going to meet family can not be called as unimportant. No matter what he does there. If he was blowing you off for some other unimportant thing, like painting at home, then you can say that he is blowing you off.
How about hanging out with friends after work instead of letting me know he's free
Are you sure he knows that you want to / okay with hanging out after work?He might think you are too tired or something.
I don't know but he knows u would want to hang out with him anyways
Ask him that. If he avoids the convo, stop replying.
Ask him what?
why he would not hang out with you?
I don't know I don't want to be nit picky my question is though is that a reflection of him not wanting to be in a relationship with me?
It can be. Even if it is not, If you want more meetings than you currently are having, that means you are not compatible, it will be best to keep distance.
because, you want different kind of intimicy in relationship amd in the long run, this could become a problem.
No were on the same page with that
okay. Then you dont have to worry about it.
We'll I'm just asking if him not seeing me a lot is a reflection of him not wanting a relationship?
what i am saying is the amount of time he spends with you, if it is enough for him in a relationship, and you as well than you dont have fo worry about it. But since you feel, he spends less time with you, you are obviously not in sync with him.
Well I'm fine because I'm busy too but people on here tell me because we don't see each other a lot, he's not ready for a relationship
Dont listen to that. Go with what you feel.
We'll how do you know if someone wants a relationship with you?
if the guy is not shy, he will tell you.
Well what if it's a shy guy because this guy is shy
then i dont think you can be a judge of it, by just how much a guy hangs out with you.
because, if a guy is shy, maybe he is not hanging out with you that often because he is shy.
What does being shy have to do with hanging out with me?
I am saying, if he is shy around people , then he would prefer being with known people than strangers, like family. But that does not mean he is not interested in you.
But I'm not a stranger
No you are not. But he knows them more than you.Anyways, if you doubt so much, why dont you just ask him this?
Because I want to know before I ask and every time I try to it doesn't come out
You can see for other signs. Like how he is when you actually hang out. Is he hanging out with someone else etc?
No he's not hanging out with someone else and he's all touchy feely when we hang out
Then i think you should take some time to figure things out.
Like what do you me
Let him show more interest in you.
He does. Why you don't think he Does?
Because he likes you.
I said why don't you think he shows more interest?
I meant, more interest as in , let him start calling you more.
I am but its like I want to see him more at times
Your option is to wait and see what happens or be upfront about it to him.
I don't get why he can't ask me out
I think he will take some time.
What do you mean?
what did you not understand?
Why do you think it will take him time
Because he is shy. Isn't he?
Yes so, it already been months
Then , i guess, he thought this was just casual fling and nothing serious.
Well its still going on and would you tell your casual fling about your work and family
Nope i wouldn't. So why does it bother you that he is taking his time in the relationship?
We'll seeing me on his own time is one thing but its been months and he's only seeing me so why can't we make it official
because he is not ready yet.
He isn't ready for a relationship?
Well then why would you tell me to ask him if he wasn't ready
Because you want to know.
You just told me you dont think he's ready though
I told you i think he is not ready. But you were niether convinced nor receptive. Thats why i suggested to ask him, you will have concrete answer.
Did you tell me that? I'm sorry but if he's not ready, why ask just so he could say no
No he's not ( okay maybe I used the wrong wording) but we are seeing each other and I need to know how to know if he wants to get into a relationship with me?
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Explain what? That we don't hang out much